With November just a day away, we turn our focus towards the holiday season. Turkey, trees, twinkling lights, candles and family...it's time to dive in, y'all!
For many of us, the holidays conjure images of cozy nights and time spent with loved ones. For others of us, the holidays trigger pain about loved ones lost, or complicated gatherings that leave us feeling empty or stressed, or maybe no one to gather with at all.
No matter your feeling about the holidays season, there are heavy emotions associated with this time of year.
Here are 3 tips to keep the holidays bright this year...
1. Manage Expectations --
We all believe holidays should be a certain way based on our past experiences. Some love giant gatherings with all extended family involved. Others prefer Friendsgivings, quiet evenings with board games, or maybe even a vacation.
No matter how we choose to spend our holidays, it's important to keep our expectations of others at bay.
Believing that WE do holidays the "right way" and all others need to do as we expect creates pain and disappointment for all.
Holidays shift from year to year, just as people, families and friendships do. If we move from expectations to appreciations -- value who/what is right in front of us, as opposed to judging what/who is missing -- the holidays will be more enjoyable for all.
2. Channel Lioness, Channel Bear --
If you find yourself alone this holiday and this thought makes you sad, channel your Inner Lioness. Be brave, reach out to a neighbor, some friends or people you work with. Ask them over and create your own celebration. Get a friend and volunteer, go see a show or attend a service. Do something new, brave and different. Holidays don't always have to be about OLD traditions, they can be about creating new ones, too.
If you're on the other end of the spectrum and have far too many people and events to include into your holiday, schedule hibernation time -- channel your Inner Bear. Leave space in the middle of your day for a nap or a jog. Stay in and watch a movie as opposed to going to another party. Schedule one night on, one night off. Allow yourself to see important family members not on the EXACT day of celebration, but a day before or after.
3. Share Stories --
Part of what makes the holidays so important are the memories that connect us to our childhoods.
Think of a favorite story to share about a loved one who passed, or a story of a holiday you'll never forget, and share it.
Our stories weave the tapestry of our lives. Sharing them with others makes us more relatable, and conjures meaningful memories for all to share. It is these very stories that will be passed on for generations to come.
Wishing you a holiday season full of joy.
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